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What does relationship abuse look like?

Does the person you are in a relationship with...

  • Embarrass you with bad names and put-downs?

  • Look at you or act in ways that scare you?

  • Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?

  • Stop you from seeing or talking to friends or family?

  • Take your money or Social Security, make you ask for money, or refuse to give you money?

  • Make all the decisions?

  • Tell you you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?

  • Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?

  • Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?

  • Intimidate you with guns, knives, or other weapons?

  • Shove you, slap you or hit you?

  • Force you to drop charges?

  • Threaten to commit suicide?

  • Threaten to kill you?

 

How to leave

  • Shelters for people and their children seeking safety, like the Relationship Safety Alliance, are the safest place. Going to a place the abuser knows endangers the victim as well as those providing shelter. Call us: 218-828-1216 or 888-777-1248.

  • Seek professional help. Relationship abuse victims can seek protection from the court.

  • In cases of immediate danger or injury, call your local emergency services (911) and tell them that domestic violence is involved.

  • Survivors of abuse often make several failed attempts to leave the abusive situation before succeeding.