IF THIS IS AN EMERGENCY, CALL 911

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Does the person you are in a relationship with...

Embarrass you with bad names and put-downs?
Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?
Stop you from seeing or talking to friends or family?
Take your money or Social Security, make you ask for money, or refuse to give you money?
Make all the decisions?
Tell you you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
Intimidate you with guns, knives, or other weapons?
Shove you, slap you or hit you?
Force you to drop charges?
Threaten to commit suicide?
Threaten to kill you?

How to leave

Shelters for people and their children seeking safety, like the Relationship Safety Alliance, are the safest place. Going to a place the abuser knows endangers the victim as well as those providing shelter. Call us: 218-828-1216 or 888-777-1248.
Seek professional help. Relationship abuse victims can seek protection from the court.
In cases of immediate danger or injury, call your local emergency services (911) and tell them that domestic violence is involved.
Survivors of abuse often make several failed attempts to leave the abusive situation before succeeding.

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